And here’s why… it doesn’t address the reason you have those feelings in the first place. And it assumes that the emotions you are feeling are negative and denies you the right to feel them and therefore you miss the amazing insights that they have for you.
Every behaviour has a positive intention and that includes those so called ‘negative’ emotions, anger, fear, sadness, resentment – all of them have a positive intention behind them. And trying to ignore or distract yourself from them, doesn’t make them go away. Instead, we need to learn to acknowledge those feelings and realise that they are like little messengers from our unconscious mind. They carry important information for us.
All emotions arise for a reason and understanding those messages allows us an insight to our own psyche, our own wants and desires, our needs and values and our connection as a whole human being, integrated and aligned.
I can share with you what research suggests that signals these feelings to arise, but it’s important for you to acknowledge what they mean for you as a unique individual as they may be slightly different. Let’s take a look at some examples of what messages emotions may have for you.
There are obviously loads more emotions that one can feel, and lots of different things that they may be trying to communicate with you. But if you are feeling that, “Why me?” take a look at what emotions are coming up for you and what they could be communicating.
And then once you have explored, accepted and let go of those emotions; consider asking yourself, “What can I appreciate about all of this now?” and notice what happens. You may be both suprised and delighted at how easily emotions can come and go and how wonderful it is to allow them to wash up over your and through you and just let them go. You may notice how awesome emotions can be as a compass to get to know yourself and to really begin to navigate life based on what you want to have happen.
All of this reminds me of the movie, Inside Out, which explores the emotions of 11 year old Riley. In the headquarters of Riley's mind, Joy is desperate for sadness to not take control... but ultimately, it comes to pass that sadness is experienced and that's when Joy realises that sadness is in fact what cultivates joy. If you haven't seen it, do yourself a favour and sit down for an awesome insight into our beautiful minds.
I'd love to hear your take-aways, learning and experiences from this article.
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