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7 Myths of Meditation by Deepak Chopra

29/12/2018

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In the past 40 years, meditation has entered the mainstream of modern Western culture, and been prescribed by physicians and practiced by everyone from business executives, artists, and scientists to students, teachers, military personnel, and -- on a promising note -- politicians. Ohio Congressman Tim Ryan meditates every morning and has become a major advocate of mindfulness and meditation, as he describes in his book, A Mindful Nation: How a Simple Practice Can Help Us Reduce Stress, Improve Performance, and Recapture the American Spirit. Despite the growing popularity of meditation, prevailing misconceptions about the practice are a barrier that prevents many people from trying meditation and receiving its profound benefits for the body, mind, and spirit. Here are seven of the most common meditation myths, dispelled.

Myth #1: Meditation is difficult.
Truth: This myth is rooted in the image of meditation as an esoteric practice reserved only for saints, holy men, and spiritual adepts. In reality, when you receive instruction from an experienced, knowledgeable teacher, meditation is easy and fun to learn. The techniques can be as simple as focusing on the breath or silently repeating a mantra. One reason why meditation may seem difficult is that we try too hard to concentrate, we're overly attached to results, or we're not sure we are doing it right. In our experience at the Chopra Center, learning meditation from a qualified teacher is the best way to ensure that the process is enjoyable and you get the most from your practice. A teacher will help you understand what you're experiencing, move past common roadblocks, and create a nourishing daily practice.


Myth #2: You have to quiet your mind in order to have a successful meditation practice.
Truth: This may be the number one myth about meditation and is the cause of many people giving up in frustration. Meditation isn't about stopping our thoughts or trying to empty our mind -- both of these approaches only create stress and more noisy internal chatter. We can't stop or control our thoughts, but we can decide how much attention to give them. Although we can't impose quiet on our mind, through meditation we can find the quiet that already exists in the space between our thoughts. Sometimes referred to as "the gap," this space between thoughts is pure consciousness, pure silence, and pure peace. When we meditate, we use an object of attention, such as our breath, an image, or a mantra, which allows our mind to relax into this silent stream of awareness. When thoughts arise, as they inevitably will, we don't need to judge them or try to push them away. Instead, we gently return our attention to our object of attention. In every meditation, there are moments, even if only microseconds, when the mind dips into the gap and experiences the refreshment of pure awareness. As you meditate on a regular basis, you will spend more and more time in this state of expanded awareness and silence. Be assured that even if it feels like you have been thinking throughout your entire meditation, you are still receiving the benefits of your practice. You haven't failed or wasted your time. When my friend and colleague David Simon taught meditation, he would often tell students, "The thought I'm having thoughts may be the most important thought you have ever thought, because before you had that thought, you may not have even known you were having thoughts. You probably thought you were your thoughts." Simply noticing that you are having thoughts is a breakthrough because it begins to shift your internal reference point from ego mind to witnessing awareness. As you become less identified with your thoughts and stories, you experience greater peace and open to new possibilities.

Myth #3: It takes years of dedicated practice to receive any benefits from meditation.
Truth: The benefits of meditation are both immediate and long-term. You can begin to experience benefits the first time you sit down to meditate and in the first few days of daily practice. Many scientific studies provide evidence that meditation has profound effects on the mind-body physiology within just weeks of practice. For example, a landmark study led by Harvard University and Massachusetts General Hospital found that as little as eight weeks of meditation not only helped people experience decreased anxiety and greater feelings of calm; it also produced growth in the areas of the brain associated with memory, empathy, sense of self, and stress regulation. At the Chopra Center, we commonly hear from new meditators who are able to sleep soundly for the first time in years after just a few days of daily meditation practice. Other common benefits of meditation include improved concentration, decreased blood pressure, reduced stress and anxiety, and enhanced immune function. You can learn more about the benefits of meditation in a recent post, "Why Meditate?" on the Chopra Center blog.

​Myth #4: Meditation is escapism.
Truth: The real purpose of meditation isn't to tune out and get away from it all but to tune in and get in touch with your true self -- that eternal aspect of yourself that goes beyond all the everchanging, external circumstances of your life. In meditation you dive below the mind's churning surface, which tends to be filled with repetitive thoughts about the past and worries about the future, into the still point of pure consciousness. In this state of transcendent awareness, you let go of all the stories you've been telling yourself about who you are, what is limiting you, and where you fall short -- and you experience the truth that your deepest self is infinite and unbounded. As you practice on a regular basis, you cleanse the windows of perception and your clarity expands. While some people do try to use meditation as a form of escape -- as a way to bypass unresolved emotional issues -- this approach runs counter to all of the wisdom teachings about meditation and mindfulness. In fact, there are a variety of meditation techniques specifically developed to identify, mobilize and release stored emotional toxicity. If you are coping with emotional upset or trauma, I recommend that you work with a therapist who can help you safely explore and heal the pain of the past, allowing you to return to your natural state of wholeness and love.

Myth #5: I don't have enough time to meditate.
Truth: There are busy, productive executives who have not missed a meditation in 25 years, and if you make meditation a priority, you will do it. If you feel like your schedule is too full, remember that even just a few minutes of meditation is better than none. We encourage you not to talk yourself out of meditating just because it's a bit late or you feel too sleepy. In life's paradoxical way, when we spend time meditating on a regular basis, we actually have more time. When we meditate, we dip in and out of the timeless, spaceless realm of consciousness... the state of pure awareness that is the source of everything that manifests in the universe. Our breathing and heart rate slow down, our blood pressure lowers, and our body decreases the production of stress hormones and other chemicals that speed up the aging process and give us the subjective feeling that we are "running out of time." In meditation, we are in a state of restful alertness that is extremely refreshing for the body and mind. As people stick with their meditation ritual, they notice that they are able to accomplish more while doing less. Instead of struggling so hard to achieve goals, they spend more and more time "in the flow" -- aligned with universal intelligence that orchestrates everything.

Myth #6: Meditation requires spiritual or religious beliefs.
​Truth: Meditation is a practice that takes us beyond the noisy chatter of the mind into stillness and silence. It doesn't require a specific spiritual belief, and many people of many different religions practice meditation without any conflict with their current religious beliefs. Some meditators have no particular religious beliefs, or are atheist or agnostic. They meditate in order to experience inner quiet and the numerous physical and mental health benefits of the practice -- including lowered blood pressure, stress reduction, and restful sleep. The original reason that I started meditating was to help myself stop smoking. Meditation helps us to enrich our lives. It enables us to enjoy whatever we do in our lives more fully and happily -- whether that is playing sports, taking care of our children, or advancing in our career.

Myth #7: I'm supposed to have transcendent experiences in meditation.
Truth: Some people are disappointed when they don't experience visions, see colors, levitate, hear a choir of angels, or glimpse enlightenment when they meditate. Although we can have a variety of wonderful experiences when we meditate, including feelings of bliss and oneness, these aren't the purpose of the practice. The real benefits of meditation are what happens in the other hours of the day when we're going about our daily lives. When we emerge from our meditation session, we carry some of the stillness and silence of our practice with us, allowing us to be more creative, compassionate, centered, and loving to ourselves and everyone we encounter.



As you begin or continue your meditation journey, here are some other guidelines that may help you on your way:

• Have no expectations. Sometimes the mind is too active to settle down. Sometimes it settles down immediately. Sometimes it goes quiet, but the person doesn't notice. Anything can happen.

• Be easy with yourself. Meditation isn't about getting it right or wrong. It's about letting your mind find its true nature.

• Don't stick with meditation techniques that aren't leading to inner silence. Find a technique that resonates with you. There are many kinds of mantra meditation, including the Primordial Sound Meditation practice taught at the Chopra Center. Or simply follow the in and out of your breathing, not paying attention to your thoughts at all. The mind wants to find its source in silence. Give it a chance by letting go.

• Make sure you are alone in a quiet place to meditate. Unplug the phone. Make sure no one is going to disturb you.

• Really be there. If your attention is somewhere else, thinking about your next appointment, errand or meal, of course you won't find silence.


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Deepak Chopra is co-author of Super Brain: Unleashing the Explosive Power of Your Mind to Maximize Health, Happiness, and Spiritual Well-Being and founder of The Chopra Foundation source: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/deepak-chopra/meditation-myths_b_2823629.html



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Bust your stress in under 5 minutes!

26/1/2017

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Stressed and Overwhelmed

Stress is your body’s way of responding to any kind of demand or threat. When you feel threatened, your nervous system responds by releasing a flood of stress hormones, including adrenaline and cortisol, which rouse the body for emergency action. Your heart pounds faster, muscles tighten, blood pressure rises, breath quickens, and your senses become sharper. These physical changes increase your strength and stamina, speed your reaction time, and enhance your focus. This is known as the “fight or flight” response and is your body’s way of protecting you.

There is an optimal amount of stress that will in fact help you to stay focused, energetic and alert.  When stress is within your comfort zone, it can help you to stay focused, energetic, and alert. In emergency situations, stress can save your life—giving you extra strength to defend yourself, for example, or spurring you to slam on the brakes to avoid an accident. Stress can also help you rise to meet challenges. Stress is what keeps you on your toes during a presentation at work, sharpens your concentration when you’re attempting the game-winning free throw, or drives you to study for an exam when you'd rather be watching TV. But beyond your comfort zone, stress stops being helpful and can start causing major damage to your mind and body.

There are numerous emotional and physical disorders that have been linked to stress including depression, anxiety, heart attacks, stroke, hypertension, immune system disturbances that increase susceptibility to infections, a host of viral linked disorders including the common cold as well as autoimmune diseases. In addition stress can have direct effects on the skin, the gastrointestinal system and can contribute to insomnia and degenerative neurological disorders like Parkinson’s disease.

But, you are in charge of your mind and therefore your life!  You can chose to adopt simple techniques that will bust your stress in less than 5 minutes!  It can be quick and easy to bring yourself back into balance and I will show you how!  But first, I'd like for you to imagine that you put a pot of water on the stove and turn the heat up.  There are a few scenarios I'd like you to consider.

First, add some low level heat that just allows the water to warm just slightly - you may notice that not much happens... but over time, if you leave the water at that low level, it will eventually evaporate (though it will take quite a while).

Now, turn up the heat and have that pot simmer - not so much heat or pressure that it boils, but just enough to have it at a constant simmer.  This is how many of us live!  The stress of poor nutrition (yes, I mean processed foods and sugars) added to the lack of exercise, the stress of managing a family or being stuck in traffic, the stress of finances or not enough time to do everything, the stress of running a household and the stress of our jobs.  All of that just leaves us simmering on the stove.  And that water, evaporates much quicker than the one at just a low level.

Now, turn up the heat!  Get that water boiling!  Maybe its a sick child or an infection or a deadline at work or you lose your job or someone else you love gets sick and suddenly the pot is boiling over and becomes empty - completely depleted! 

Imagine that water is your ability to cope.  It doesn't matter whether you have it warming slowly or boiling rapidly, if you allow the water to get even close to empty, you may begin to notice overwhelm, exhaustion, illness, anxiety and depression.  But if you just remove the pot for 5 minutes, refill it with water before adding it back to the stove - it will always have enough water in it.  And you will always have enough resilience and the ability to manage your stress.

So, how do you cool that pot and refill it in just 5 minutes?  Take control of your autonomic nervous system in the one way that you can - using your breath!  Long breaths in and short breaths out will increase your stress, long slow breaths out will decrease your stress and nice even breaths will bring you back into balance. 

To begin - take a few nice deep breathes in through your nose and then slowly exhale - letting all of the air out.  Do this for 3-5 deep breaths and then slowly bring your breath back into balance.  Depending on how used to deep breathing you are - you may only be able to breath in deeply for 3 seconds (or up to 6-8)!  If you need some guidance, use the clock below.  Breath in for 3 seconds and out for 3 seconds (or in on the blue, out on the green).  You can also increase the time to 6 seconds and use the blue or green to indicate a change in inhale or exhale.

Just 5 minutes of this balanced breathing can have a massive shift in your internal physiology - reducing adrenalin and cortisol and reducing all of the above mentioned stress related symptoms.   It's even better if you do it a few times a day!

Give it a try and let me know what you notice after just a few minutes!

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Tammy Biton is a Clinical Hypnotherapist, Master NLP Practitioner, Wellness Coach and Trainer. She has been in the Health and Wellness industry since 2009 and has helped hundreds of people to overcome the psychological and emotional barriers that held them back from achieving Health and Wellness. 

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Mindfulness can be an every day task...

18/4/2016

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In order to get the benefits of meditation, you don't have to retreat to the mountains for days at a time or sit cross legged on a cushion (though you can do these things if you want to).  But you can just bring mindfulness to activities that you already do each and every day!

Here are some examples:

* Brushing Your Teeth - this is an activity that you do at least once a day (hopefully... and if not - now is a great time to start), but because you do it everyday - it is something that most people do mindlessly.  Instead, try using your other hand to brush your teeth... focus on each and every tooth, the front, back and top - the taste of the toothpaste, the feel of the toothbrush and the "round and round" motion. 

* Breathing - we automatically breath in and out, it doesn't require conscious effort, but that doesn't mean we can't make it conscious.  Bring your attention to your breath, there is no need to change the way you are breathing - just focus on the feeling as you breath in through your nose and follow that breath down through to your chest and belly and as you exhale - follow that sensation all the way back out again.

* Pause - Breath - Smile:  I love this!  Just stop whatever you are doing... take a moment to take a nice deep breath in through your nose, allowing it to fill your lungs - exhale slowly... then smile.  (It doesn't matter if its a real smile or not... if its not a real smile, hold it for longer and do it again).  There is a cascade of neurochemicals (feel good hormones) that are released when we smile (in fact some researchers found that a smile generates as much brain activity as winning $25,000).

There is a long list of benefits one can get from a good mediation practice, but why don't you try it for yourself... try one or all of these each day for 30 Days (you can do them just once or many times in the day).  I'd love to hear what you notice after the 30 Days.
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The Key to Happiness = Gratitude

21/11/2013

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Do you know someone who is eternally optimistic?  Do you admire that trait?  The good news is that a positive attitude can be cultivated!  You too can choose to see the opportunities presented in the challenges life delivers and find the goodness in the most difficult of people!  It just takes practice!

Studies have shown that adopting an attitude of gratitude can help you to be more emotionally resilient, boost your mood and improve your general well-being... and there are many more added benefits.

Set a goal to practice gratitude every day for 30 days and see the benefits for yourself!  Not sure where to start?  Try one of the following:
  • Share your gratitude - write a thank you note to someone and thank them for something kind that they have said or done or for the positive impact they have had on your life (and then send it or give it to them)
  • Gratitude Journal - you can choose to write in it every morning and every night (just a few things that you appreciate or are blessed with), you may choose to write just one thing or 5 things each day.
  • Compliment someone or something- compliment someone else each day, for example, "It's so nice and sunny today, don't you think?"
  • Meditate - find a quiet space, close your eyes, take a few deep breathes in and focus on your chest / abdomen rising and falling with that breath.  Then bring your awareness to your heart and think of all the things you are thankful for.

Enjoy the benefits!  If you have other ways that you like to express gratitude, please share them with us.



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