I often get asked what kind of Coach are you? Or, what's the difference between Coaching and Therapy? Or, can't you just hypnotise me and make me change? And so, I thought I'd share my answers with you!
I often get asked if I am a Coach or Therapist, and the answer is - I'm both!
I'm not sure if you've ever been down the traditional therapy route, but it's very much focused on the problem and your past; and traditional coaching focuses on visioning, success, the present and moving toward the future (without the emotions). As a Transformational Coach, I am interested in your past and the problem you're seeking help with, but not in a traditional way! You know your story inside out and back the front and having you re-tell it to me, isn't going to solve it - so in our session, I'm listening differently; I am listening for the patterns of emotion, thoughts and behaviours that keep you stuck in the problem. More of my focus is on what you DO want, on crafting that vision of what you want your life to be like without the problem! I want to help you clear those unconscious patterns of thought, emotion and behaviour or those interferences that are holding you back, help you to build any resources you might need (self love, confidence, inner peace, strength, courage etc) and really help you to get to where you want to be. Working at the unconscious level with those patterns, is what makes Transformational Coaching a brief therapy (meaning most things can be resolved in around 3-8 sessions).
But it doesn't stop there, I've titled myself as a Transformational Coach and Awakener. According to yourdictionary.com, an Awakener is "someone who awakens", but what does that really mean?
As an Awakener, I believe that you have all of the resources that you need within you. My role is to Awaken the Power of Your Mind, to facilitate you to make the changes and to help you pave your own pathway forward. Awakening goes beyond coaching, teaching, mentoring and sponsorship to include the level of vision and spirit, bringing out the best of your understanding of spiritual self. Albert Einstein said that we can't solve a problem at the level it was created, so my role as an Awakener is to reconnect you with that core of who you really are, going beyond your current conditioning and the limits of who you think you are, allowing you to easily BE who you want to be.
So why don't I just hypnotise you and "make you" change? Whilst I can and do absolutely use hypnosis in my sessions, but I'd much rather you be involved in your own change - you're in control of your mind and therefore your results. Allowing you to be more involved in the sessions, means that you get the benefit of having the richness and learnings - and it's that 'learning' that assists with long term, lasting results. Imagine that I took away your learnings that things that are hot can burn, but I just stopped you from touching the stove... you'd not burn yourself on the stove, but you might find other hot things to burn yourself on. The awareness and lesson is important - simply changing a behaviour doesn't mean you won't find other ways to 'sabotage'. Or if we hypnotised you to stop smoking, without looking at the patterns behind your smoking, or finding other ways to have those needs that drive you to smoke met... you'd either start smoking again or perhaps take up drinking or some other way to meet the need. All behaviours have a positive intention - so we need to find that intention and find a better way to get it met. Makes more sense, doesn't it? :)
With over 10 years of helping people, I am an "everything coach" - the patterns we run in life filter through personal life, business, career, passions, relationships, health, wealth, parenting. It really doesn't matter what the topic is. My role is to help you to identify where you are at now (the patterns, beliefs, values, self concepts etc) that are holding you back, what attitudes, attributes and skills you need to move forward and help you to really get to where you want to be. So whether you want to let go of anxiety, overcome depression, release the trauma of abuse from your past, find yourself again or let go of self-doubt, fears and limiting beliefs, I would love to help you.
If you'd like to set up a call to Discover more, book in for your FREE 25 Minute Session.