Sometimes I get so jealous when I see kids with their grandparents (specifically their Grandfather) because my own Dad died before my kids ever got to meet him. And that makes me angry and sad and a whole spectrum of things. Now, I could choose to suppress that or to feel it, to continue the grieving process and allow those feelings to wash up over me and through me. To allow it to process through and begin to shift into love, gratitude and appreciation that I had such a wonderful Dad who would have been an amazing Granddad. That I have three beautiful healthy happy children. And to acknowledge that each and every day, the choices that I make about my own health and well-being may well impact whether I get to see my own Grandchildren or not (in many years to come, my oldest is only just about to turn 10). This morning, I chose the latter.
You see, even our negative emotions have messages for us, communications about what is important to us, what matters and sometimes, triggers us to pull our head in and get back to what really matters.
So when you notice a negative emotion, sit with it for a moment, allow it like a wave to come and wash over you and then let it flow back to nothing, nothing, nothing. And then allow the room for the new experience of emotions to come!
Want to practice? Next time you're feeling an unpleasant emotion, instead of pushing it away, try welcoming, acknowledging and letting it go with the following steps. It should take you around 10 minutes.
Mindful Emotions Exercise:
You can do this with as many different sensations as you want to. Keep going until you have a sense of no longer struggling with your feelings
As you do this exercise, one of two things will happen: either your feelings will change - or they won't. It doesn't matter either way. This exercise is not about changing your feelings. Its about accepting them
4 Quick Steps to Emotional Acceptance