Why are some people clingy and others overly chill?

Have you ever wondered why some people seem super chill in relationships while others get super clingy or distant?

Well, it might have something to do with their attachment styles. Attachment styles are like blueprints for how we relate to others, and they're shaped by our early experiences with our caregivers.
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So, let's break it down:

• Secure Attachment: These are the folks who had a stable and loving relationship with their caregivers growing up. They're usually pretty comfortable expressing their emotions and trusting others. They're the ones who can handle relationships like a boss.
  
  
• Avoidant Attachment: People with this style often had caregivers who were emotionally unavailable or distant. They might seem independent and cool on the outside, but deep down, they're afraid of getting too close to others. They might avoid commitment and intimacy in relationships.

• Anxious Attachment: If you grew up relying heavily on your caregivers for emotional support, you might have this attachment style. You might crave closeness and worry about losing people you care about. Sometimes, you might even act clingy or needy in relationships.
  
  
• Disorganised Attachment: This one's a bit of a mixed bag. People with disorganized attachment styles might have experienced inconsistent or even abusive caregiving. They might swing between craving closeness and pushing people away, and they might struggle with trusting others.
  

So, how do these attachment styles affect our relationships? Well, they can have a pretty big impact! People with secure attachment styles tend to have healthier and more stable relationships, while those with other styles might find it harder to connect with others in a meaningful way (or find themselves in similar relationships with the same dynamic again and again).
But here's the good news: understanding our attachment styles can help us improve our relationships. Once we know how we tend to relate to others, we can work on building healthier habits and communicating better with our partners.
So, whether you're super secure, a bit avoidant, or somewhere in between, knowing your attachment style can help you navigate the tricky world of relationships with a little more ease. After all, we're all just trying to find our place in this crazy thing called love!

If you feel like you might need some help, reach out and let's have a chat.