There is the age old coaching question: If you knew you couldn't fail, what would you do? And if we look at the wisdom of Thomas Edison, he famously shares that he never failed in his attempts to create the light bulb, he just found 100 ways it wouldn't work.
So whilst its great to open up possibilities and begin to consider what you want from life - is what you want important enough for you to learn 100 ways it won't work? Are you willing to back yourself in the face of what if? Are you willing to step out of your comfort zone and possibly experience a bit of pain in order to gain what you desire?
“By trying, you may fail others. By not, you fail yourself.”
Once you are clear on what you want, you know that it's important enough and what sacrifices you'll need to make to achieve it - if you still want it, what is left to stop you?
Oh, right! Maybe those pesky old beliefs?
It might be a challenge to step away from those old beliefs at first, you might need to step out of the construct of who you belief you are and what you believe you're capable of, step out of your comfort zone.
Sometimes beliefs are easy to change, simply by becoming aware of them and challenging them with evidence to the contrary, by realising the limitations of that limiting belief. Maybe it was created back when you were 4 years old, but you're older and wiser now (either that or you're a genius 4 year old reading this article!) ;)
Sometimes we need to find new beliefs and in this instance, affirmations can be useful (as long as they are believable or you may just spiral yourself into more doubt and insecurity). It's for this reason I am a massive fan of small consecutive steps rather than MASSIVE leaps. For example, it might be more effective to believe that you can do something rather than jumping immediately to believing you are world class at it. If you lack a skill that needs to be learned, believing you now have it may just lead to problems. It is better to believe that you are ABLE TO LEARN. Believing "I can" can be more powerful than thinking "I am". Create some I can beliefs around what you want to achieve.
And then... Fake it 'til you make it. Acting as if you can do something can shift and change your neurological wiring along with your beliefs. The mind can't tell the difference between real and imagined, you often hear of actors getting "consumed" by their roles, don't you? And that's why! It sounds simple, but it's so effective.
If you want some help creating a stronger vision of what you want from any area of life, my goal guide can help you assess where things are now, where you'd like them to be, get clear on what's truly important to you and them guide you through setting great goals.
If you want to find out more about REDISCOVERING who you're meant to be, want to discuss Coaching or Therapy or simply want to share your thoughts! I'd love to hear from you! Message me! :)